Celebrate Intimate Weddings logo
 




Celebrate Intimate Weddings


Home


Site Map


new Larry's "Kiss 'n Go" Ceremony!


new Check Larry's Availabilty!


Rave Reviews


Watch us on YouTube.com

new Wedding BLOG


Relationship BLOG


Facebook Logo


Twitter Logo


Follow Me on Pinterest


this page to your friends!


WEDDING FEATURES

Wedding Books


Wedding Music


Wedding Checklists


Wedding Tips


Wedding Articles Menu


Marriage License Info


The Wedding Gallery


Rocky Point Beach Weddings


WEDDING SERVICES

What's in a Ceremony?


Wedding Ceremonies


Larry's "Romantic" Wedding Ceremony


WEDDING OFFICIANT

About Larry James


Relationship Coaching


Articles Menu


Larry's Book Shelf


Fee Schedule


WEDDING FUN STUFF


Jokes & Cartoons

Arizona's Finest Wedding Sites & Services Magazine
Larry James is a contributing writer for Arizona's Finest Wedding Sites & Services

Wedding Chronicle
The Wedding Chronicle


Wedding Chronicle logo
Winner 3 years
in a row!

Wedding Wire Couples Choice Award

Pop the Question Expert

Momentville.com Rated Logo
Hot List Award


Celebrate Intimate Weddings

 

with Relationship Speaker/Author/Coach...
Larry James


The Oathing Stone

Embrace the old European tradition to add a meaningful highlight to your wedding ceremony. The Oathing Stone is an old Scottish tradition where the Bride and Groom place their hands upon a stone while saying their wedding vows.

Called the oathing stone it was thought to be the best way to express your solemn promise in physical form. Taken from the ancient Celtic custom of setting an oath in stone, inclusion of an oathing stone in the vows can be deeply moving.

Etching your vows in stone is a sacred symbol across cultures. In the Scottish tradition an oath given near a stone or water was considered more binding. In some areas of Scotland, the couple would carve their names on a tree or a stone. Some of these bridal stones still exist across Scotland.

oathstone2

During the reading of the Bride and Groom's wedding vows, they hold an Oathing Stone in their hands. It is believed that holding the stone during the reading of the vows casts them into the stone.

In a more modern version, the Oathing Stone can be engraved with the couple's initials in the middle, accompanied by the groom & bride's initials and date of their wedding. The source of an oathing stone, what minerals are in it, it's color, or other characteristics are less important than what is said over the stone.

oathingstone

After the wedding, the Oathing Stone can be used as a paper weight, or in a shadow box, or decoratively around a candle or vase of flowers, or placed in an aquarium, etc. Be creative! However they are displayed, they will always be a precious keepsake of a special occasion in your life. Give it a place in the garden so your love will grow strong roots and flourish or in a special place in your home to remind you of the vows taken on your wedding day.

At the wedding, place a bowl filled with mini-Oathing Stones on the guest sign-in table where the guests enter and exit the seating area. When your guests arrive, have ushers or attendants give each guest a small stone while the guests are being seated. Alternatively, a mini-Oathing Stone can also be placed on each wedding chair before the guests arrive. They simply hold the stone in their hand suring the wedding ceremony.

Since (I'm guessing) that most of your guests have not seen this ceremony, I think it might be a good idea to have the ushers or attendants give each guest a program as they enter the ceremony area, that - in addition to the names and wedding ceremony highlights - has a brief explanation about "The Oathing Stone" ceremony. You are welcome to use the following:

•    •    •

The Oathing Stone

During the reading of _____ and_____'s wedding vows, they will be holding an Oathing Stone. It is believed that holding the stone during the reading of the vows, casts them into the stone.

The Oathing Stone ceremony originated in Scotland. It is believed that an oath given near a stone or water was considered more binding. This evolved into the bride and groom holding their hands together on a stone as they repeat their wedding vows.

When you arrived, you were given a stone to hold in your hand during the wedding ceremony. _____ and _____ chose these stones as symbols of your special relationship, love, good wishes and heartfelt blessings to them. The stones will serve as a lasting reminder of your presence at their wedding and of the special love that they shared on this their special day.

As you hold the blessing stone tightly in your hand, please reflect for a moment your wishes for this couple for love, happiness, prosperity, and unity.

Following the ceremony, _____ and _____ will invite you to place the stones with your personal blessing for them as a newly married couple into the special container on the gift table as you leave the ceremony area.

•    •    •

Here are the words I wrote for a recent wedding that included the Oathing Stone Ceremony just before the bride and groom did their wedding vows. Their Oathing Stone was on a table behind me (or it can be handed to the minister by someone in the wedding party or a parent) and at the appropriate time, I held the stone up for the guests to see as I recited the following:

•    •    •

Exchange of Vows on the Oathing Stone

Minister: _____ and _____ will now say their wedding vows to each other using the Celtic tradition of the oathing stone. For those of you not familiar with this tradition, it originated in Scotland and is when the bride and groom hold their hands together on a stone as they repeat their wedding vows. An oath given near a stone or water was considered to be more binding.

When you arrived, you were given a stone to hold in your hand during the wedding ceremony. _____ and _____ chose these stones as symbols of your special relationship, love, good wishes and heartfelt blessings to them. The stones will serve as a lasting reminder of your presence at their wedding and of the special love that they shared on this their special day.

As you hold the blessing stone tightly in your hand, please reflect for a moment your wishes for this couple for love, happiness, prosperity, and unity as they exchange their wedding vows.

Following the ceremony, _____ and _____ invite you to place the stones with your personal blessing for them as a newly married couple into the special container on the gift table as you leave the ceremony area.

Minister: (The wedding vows go here).

After the vows are spoken. . .

Minister: Listen to the words of a special Celtic Blessing for the bride and groom:

Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect
guide you in your marriage,
Let the strength of your wills bind you together,
Let the power of love and desire make you happy
and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly,
Forced to dissipate in the light of your love.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways
Or words of the unenlightened give you unease.
For your love is with you,
Now and always!

NOTE: After the Blessing, the bride and groom give the Minister the oathing stone and he places it on a table behind him and the wedding ceremony continues.

•    •    •

NOTE: The photo of the engraved Oathing Stone is courtesy of http://www.etsy.com.

My friend Debbie Sweet, Artemeus Design/artZengraving, Scottsdale, AZ, can engrave your Oathing Stone. Call Debbie at: 480-528-8995 or for more terrfic wedding ideas, click here.

backSite Map Ceremoniesnext

 


Featured Book
in Larry's Book Store

Click Cover to Order



WEDDING SHOPPING

The Wedding Shop!


Amazon.com


Larry's Book Store


Intimate Wedding Boutique


Your Own Wedding Website


Engraved Gifts


Wedding Magazines



Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry

Celebrate Love Banner
Larry's "other" Website



FREE Subscription! LoveNotes for Lovers eZINE
LoveNotes, tips, articles & more!

Want to see something special on this site?
Please tell us!

Google
Use the Google Search Engine to find whatever you want on Celebrate Intimate Weddings!

Click here!

Like what you see?
Tell a friend!


CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com • P.O. Box 12695 • Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695 • 800-725-9223 • 480-998-9411
CelebrateLove.com/Larry James


Sponsors:  Relationship BLOG | Wedding BLOG | CelebrateLove.com | AuthorsandSpeakersNetwork.com

Larry's Facebook | Larry's Twitter

Back to Top

Copyright © - Larry James