LoveNotes for People Helped by Reading Larry's Books!
This letter was received from a woman whose marriage was literally on the rocks! Larry James
receives letters from all over the world from people who have read his books or attended his relationship
seminars. This one especially touched his heart.
October 25, 1996
I've never written to an author before even though I'm an avid reader; a pleasure I've enjoyed all my life.
I'm 53 years old and my husband and I have each only been married once. Our marriage has
lasted 33 years. So, on our marriage road there have been pebbles, rocks and chuck holes
along the way. Recently we encountered a boulder!
Every morning my husband listens to the radio as he shaves. Six days a week it is one
particular station that he listens to, but on Sunday there is no particular station. Just a chance on the dial!
On the Sunday after we met up with the boulder, he happened to turn to a Kansas City
station, KBEQ, 104.3 FM. A woman was conducting an interview with you about your books and relationships.
Indeed a Power greater than ourselves was at work that morning! We bought "How to Really
Love the One You're With" and "LoveNotes for Lovers." I have read them and my husband is now reading them.
To say your books have made a difference in my life is an understatement! To use the
old cliche, your books have literally changed my life! As I read them, especially "How
to," I was reminded of a cartoon character with a light bulb above the head - going on!
I had lots of glowing light bulbs above my head! I saw myself on virtually every page!
My unhappiness and dissatisfaction was caused by me, not others! At 53, I had recently
given lots of thought to - "Is this all there is? Is this what the rest of my life will be like?"
I am still (name), but I'm a different person! I'm getting rid of some "brain luggage"
that I don't need, some "shoulds" and "oughts" that have been there for years.
I'm moving on! I have a new phrase that helps guide my life now - "What difference does
it make?" If an event occurs and it does make a difference, I stop and pause and think.
If the event doesn't make a difference, I move on and put it behind me. I'm learning not
to dwell. Life is a joy! I'm happier than I've ever been!
The relationship with my husband reminds me of when we were newlyweds! He seems happier
than I have ever seen him! Life is so good.
I thank God every day for the miracle that happened that Sunday; for hearing the interview
and learning about your books. Thanks for writing them.
P.S. The boulder that I saw in the road, we demolished! I'm glad that I am finally
learning at 53, to love myself! Again, thanks!
UPDATE - February 15, 2000 - My husband and I are fine. Not even a grain of
sand in the road of life of our marriage. Don't know if I wrote you that I bought several copies of your books and
gave them to our grown children and to several of my women friends. In fact one of your books is still on the bedside table
shelf. Wish a copy was required with every marriage license!
Another reader wrote. . . "How to Really Love the One You're With" taught me that a true trusting relationship takes
maturity and hard work. It means that you need to live in the present and
not look back. I learned that while I have known many of these things, I
must practice them to truly experience a healthy relationship. - Tina
If you have a relationship success story, send it to Larry James at the address or e-mail below. All names
will be withheld unless you grant permission to use a first name only.