Celebrate Intimate Weddings

with Relationship Speaker/Author/Coach...
Larry James

Thank you so very much for your kind communications with me last night and today. Your suggestions and comments are thought-provoking and insightful. I counsel with many people about their situations, but when it comes to my own, I seem to lose objectivity and need guidance myself! - A Therapist (Name withheld by request)

Personal Relationship Coaching (Pre-marital & Post-marital) Speak One-on-One with Larry James

You've planned for your wedding. . . have you planned for your marriage?

A wedding does not make a marriage. It is the first step in a lifetime of being together. The journey requires many decisions from both of you. Working together is the key!

Are you smart enough to get smarter about your relationship?

Pre-marital counseling is a wise choice! So is post-marital coaching! It is smart to mutually discuss any issues you may have with one another. It gives you both an opportunity to identify the challenges before they become challenges!

Larry is available by telephone for personal relationship coaching for high functioning singles and married couples; people who are committed to "doing" whatever it takes to make their relationships work. Mature people know their relationships can always be better. A healthier love relationship is the goal.

Larry believes it is nearly impossible to inspire couples to change when his path (and yours too) is blocked by the sacred cow:  "There is only one answer for each relationship problem." This is not true. It is better to kill the sacred cow. Sacred cows make the best hamburgers.

Larry's job is to be curious and to help you gain more understanding. A good relationship coach doesn't claim to have all the answers for why you are the way you are although we may have some ideas that we will willingly share with you. When it comes to getting answers and more understanding, we will form hypotheses together and you will come to your own conclusions. A relationship coach facilitates that process. They don't tell you how to think, believe or act.

He is not here to give you advice. He will be there for you to share his knowledge with you and help you make your own decisions that are balanced, rational, and well-explored. Strengthening your own reasoning and decision-making skills will increase your independence and self-esteem.

He can help you gain more clarity, more understanding, and form a plan of action, but relationship coaching is not a magic pill that erases all issues. It takes work, and YOU have to do the work. If you're up for the challenge, he will be there every step of the way!

There really are no pat answers. Men and women are different. Every couple relates to their problems differently. It is a wonder men and women get along as well as they do.

When you speak to him about your relationship issues. . . he listens! Larry James is a "solution finder." He can help you sort out your differences before they become roadblocks.

Smart relationship coaches don't know everything - that's why they ask such good questions.

Have any of these issues in your relationship?

1. Broken Trust
2. Emotional Neglect
3. Addictive Behaviors
4. Little or No Affection
5. Emotional or Physical Abuse
6. on the verge of Divorce
7. Boredom
8. Separation
9. A Stubborn Partner
10. Emotional Infidelity
11. Silent Treatments
12. No Sex or Intimacy
13. Poor or No Communication
14. Lack of Appreciation
15. No Success with Prior Relationship Coaching or Therapy
16. Infidelity

If you have any of these issues in your relationship, Larry James can help you!

Relationship Momentum Twarted by a Boulder in the Road??

Sometimes trying to fix your own relationship is like standing in a bucket and trying to lift yourself up by the handle.

Larry's ability to be your "committed listener" enables him to better understand the problem. He listens for clues that suggest questions you may have overlooked. Often the answer can be found within the question. It may be a question you are afraid to ask yourself. It may be a question with an answer you know and do not want to accept. He listens for clues that present solutions he can suggest that are unique to "your" relationship.

To experience breakthroughs in your relationship you must accept and embrace mistakes/problems. They are there to make you. . . not break you. First you must acknowledge the mistake/problem, have the courage to talk with someone with the wisdom to help you, learn from the experience, offer forgiveness (if necessary), take steps to prevent its reoccurance and move on.

Sometimes trying to fix your own relationship is like standing in a bucket and trying to lift yourself up by the handle. If you are experiencing situations in your relationship that prevent the full expression of love for your partner, you are invited to arrange for a personal relationship coaching session by telephone with Larry James. You can count on him to offer the support you need for those everyday problems that inevitability occur in relationships.

During his nearly three year tenure as host of the "Mars & Venus Chat Room" on America Online, Dr. John Gray, Ph.D. personally directed Larry to answer the thousands of relationship questions that were sent to Dr. Gray by e-mail. Although Larry is not a therapist, he has assisted singles and couples with answers to more than 5,000 relationship questions for Dr. Gray under his own name.

Larry's relationship books are reviewed prior to publication for authenticity, accuracy and content by a team of professional therapists and counselors. . .

• Dr. Larry Losoncy, Ph.D. (Tulsa, OK), a family therapist
• Patty Kellogg, M.A. (Vancouver, WA), a private practice counselor
• Dr. John Gray, Ph.D. (Mill Valley, CA), author, "Men Are From Mars, Woman Are From Venus"
• Michael Najarian, M.A. (Bainbridge Island, WA), counselor and former associate of Dr. John Gray, Ph.D.

Many therapists and ministers have endorsed Larry's work in the relationship area by encouraging their clients/parishioners to read his relationship books, specifically, "How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship."

Here are only a handful of the "Thank Yous" Larry has received from people whose hearts have been touched by his personal relationship coaching.

Thank you for being there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on. You were so compassionate and understanding that it made me cry. I realized I definitely had a serious problem to deal with, and you helped me to realize that. Since then I have been making a conscious effort to find ways to develop a healthy relationship between my husband and myself.

Thank you so much for your quick reply. You helped me through a particularly difficult day!

Thank you for your guidance. Your advice has shown me a side that I never acknowledged. It means changing my outlook on life (for the better) through a process of self-reflection. I do realize that this is important for a healthier attitude towards myself and towards others. It will take time. I did live in the shadow of the relationship, and the sacrifice was my own self-esteem.

Thank you for your advice. You're right. It was not the answer I wanted to hear, however it was the answer I needed to know!

It is really amazing how we are communicating more and better. I couldn't imagine how good our relationship could be. We are both learning to be especially honest about what we want and need from one another. I don't feel guilty or selfish anymore when I make my requests known. It feels great!!! We are "Celebrating Love!" I thank God for people like you who have seen the need through your experiences to help people and their relationships to succeed. You have made a difference in our lives and for that we will be forever grateful.

THANKS so much for your response! Wow! It contained so much information I will need to read it several times in order to absorb it all! What you say makes sense to me. I am currently in the process of gathering my resources; i.e., God, a counselor, support group, friends and family that I think will be helpful as I attempt (one more time) to end this affair. Thanks so much for being here and having the desire to help others!

Thanks so much for your response to my question about forgiving (after the) discovery of years of infidelity of my partner. Your words are very inspirational and I will save them to re-read as needed. I am most appreciative.

When you are in the middle of a very confusing situation, it is sometimes hard to evaluate available options. Thanks for outlining options for me and for giving suggestions. Maybe now I can move forward a bit.

Thanks so much for the insight and wisdom that you've shared so freely and without restraint at such a critical time in my life. Things have improved greatly in my marriage and I'm looking to God to do a greater miracle in our hearts and our life. When things were so rough I would always ask myself if the point in question would "build up" or "tear down". It was a great tool of direction for me. Your books, advise, chats, and letters that you poured yourself into surely did MUCH to build up my marriage and my self. It also restored hope and respect. It is my hope that we truly do meet someday. Thanks for touching and making a positive change in my life.

It is highly recommended that you read the following articles prior to calling to arrange for a confidential relationship coaching session by telephone:  And if All Else Fails? and 12 Ways to Get 10 Times the Value of Calls From A Coach.

Call now to arrange an appointment for personal relationship coaching. Half hour and one hour coaching fees are available. Appointments after regular office hours are available upon request.

Thinking of cheating? Before you do. . . read the following book! Beyond the Wedding Vows : Circumstances, Choices, Consequences of an Extramarital Affair - Carmella Antonino - A brilliant, non-judgmental guide for women caught in the dark side of marriage. Carmella explores, explains and exposes the myths of marriage, extra-marital affairs and the everlasting effects of going beyond the wedding vows. Larry's Review: No psychological jargon here. Just the facts. Highly recommended.

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